HE SAID... SHE SAID...

He said:

When I see her, I just want to be with her and give her everything she needs...

Why can't she see that I am afraid of messing up what we are struggling to build?

She's beautiful, she's charming, she's witty...

She would be the perfect woman for any guy...ok not just any guy...

For me...

But when she looks at me, I wonder what she's thinking about...

Those deep, soulful eyes boring into my face like she's got the keys to the deepest recesses of my soul...

She doesnt see through me, she sees me... She gets me...

That is freaky...

I just wish there was a way to make her understand...

She said:

I look at him, sitting there, lost in his own world...

And I wonder, how is it that he's so calm...

Can he not understand that I crave for him so much it hurts?

Its like he has put up some kind of barrier that shields him...

Is he afraid of letting go?

Is he cautious of allowing himself to even care about me?

I do not want to seem insecure but he keeps on sending mixed signals...

His mouth says one thing yet his body says another...

Can I continue like this, being so close to him yet so far?

I need to make him understand that I'm here for him, that I want this...

But how?

He said:

Wow, she's braver than I thought...

She's really strong, managing to keep her feelings for me at bay...

Could it be mere pretense? or could it be real?

Is it possible that she doesn't like me in that way?

Wow, that thought has never crossed my mind...

How does that make me feel? it makes me feel weird in a bad way.

Ego tripping? maybe... probably.

I want her, that's certain...

But I'm not sure I want her the way she wants me to want her...

Pathetic? Yeah I thought so too...

She said:

Oh! Can you just ask me out already?

Like really, how hard can this be?

You already know how much I like you...

And I think you like me too.

So what in God's holy name is keeping you?

Ok so they say a girl's supposed to be patient...

But how patient is patient?

Am I supposed to wait forever?

Make up your damn mind and let me know what the deal is...

Ok! deep breath... let it out slowly...

Whew!!! is finding a man this hard?

Or is there more to this?

I do not know how much longer I can wait...

He said:

So she's withdrawing, she hasn't said so but I can sense it...

The calls have reduced, the long chats, the way she relates...

A new guy perhaps? Nah, she likes me too much to do that...

Or does she?

The other day we were hanging out, I kinda overheard her talking with one of 'the girls'...

'Bout her being in the market and all... and 'bout her needing something new...

Jealous? Maybe...

i'll just let her be for a while, I'm sure she will get back to being herself with me...

It's just probably 'one of em days'...

*shrugs*

She said:

I met someone yesterday,

He's rily cute and sweet and he makes me laugh...

We've been hanging out quite a lot and I like that...

Kinda helps in taking my mind off that 'painfully slow dude'...

*rolling my eyes*

I've come to the conclusion that he really doesn't like me...

Too bad 'cos this guy seems really nice.

Rebound? not really afterall, I never got to making it official with HIM...

*hiss*

So it can not be considered as a rebound.

I still think about him tho, but not as much as before...

*shrug*

He said:

I'ts official, she's seeing that dude...

What could she possibly and humanly see in him? really?

I just can not understand females...

i thought she liked me... you know...

We had a thing! I wasn't imagining it...

I'm pretty sure it wasn't all in my head...

She led me on... the b*!@T

That's what she did...

I still have a chance tho...

I think its time to turn my A game on...

Poor guy hasn't got a chance... lame ass dude,

I almost feel sorry for him...

She said:

Hahahaha!!! I feel sorry for HIM...

Walking round like a wounded puppy...

You freaking had your chance, you blew it...

What did you expect? I was gonna sit and wait for you?

I did wait, I did show you how much I cared about you...

But no, you just could not man up and do the right thing...

*sigh*

Now I don't see you that way anymore...

You're like .. my brother...

That would be incest

*ewwww*

You're a really good friend now... my person...

*hug*

I love you...

He said:

That hurt!... Friend zone? Brother?

So freaking condescending...

how did I ever get here?

Listening to her raving and ranting 'bout this new guy...

Telling me how good he is....

*shudders*

I wanna kill him, and her too...

All I was tryna do was be a gentleman... dats not in vogue anymore?

Then why in God's name didn't I get the bloody memo?

Sweet Jesus!!!

*scoffs*

Now, I'm the one she's seeking advice from, on how to please her man...

I'm supposed to offer my shoulder when she's hurting? really?

This sucks!!!

I really botched it this time...

But Imma make sure it doesn't happen again...

*walks off*



In reply to: Putting out the first time- What Izzy thinks

Let's say I am alone in a club or something.

And this fine, young man is just opposite me.

I know I have never met him before but then he smiles at me.

It's been a boring day and I'm only here to have fun.

So I figured why not return the smile?....

The typical scene

As expected, we share drinks, talk and even dance.

He finds me interesting, I find him interesting too..

And the times we aren't dancing, we are laughing.

And then for some reason I realised I have stayed out longer than I should.

Or maybe there's just nothing to return to.

Or just maybe I am a heartbroken young woman in search of someone to hold.

Or let's even assume that I just like him....

And then he suggests we go home together, and I agree.

And I go home with him and 'put out'...

Its our first time, not just our first time out together, but our first time meeting each other.

That's even worse than the scene Marie tried to paint.

If we are to be real with ourselves, there is no way this makes me cheap or should make me feel guilty.

Yes I said it!

The only person allowed to look at this as a bad thing is a person who is practising complete abstinence from sex. You are soo not allowed to judge me if you have sex with your partner in any form.

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why the girl is the one who is looked upon as cheap? Did she sleep with herself? I think its because we have made it so. I think its high time we stopped putting women at the receiving end of anything sexual. Let's (especially Africans) stop treating sex like its a novelty for the man and a burden for the woman to bear. Let's understand that they both enjoy the experience and so one party should not be made to suffer any form of shame or guilt. Afterall, we both have to strip when we have sex or at least expose them organs!

Again let me say that whether a girl waits for ten years before she lets a guy sleep with her or she lets him before they even meet, what determines how he looks at you is YOU!! Haven't you ever seen a situation where a girl plays hard for so long and the minute she allows the guy, he changes immediately and becomes something else?

What do men really want? A girl who has desires but is forced to push them in just because she doesn't want you to look down on her? Or a girl who is just true to her feelings and knows what she wants?

I advocate for a society where anybody whether man or woman is allowed to 'express' without the risk of being made to feel guilty or uncomfortable with his/her body; Where people see sex as a mutually pleasurable and symbiotic act and not some form of conquest for a man; Where how long it takes you to 'put out' does not determine the success of your relationship....

#ThatIsAll

N.B This was borne out of a playful and mischievious mind. lol.. Ion have as much passion for the topic as I express in this piece.. lol.... ;)

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Dueces!!!